School Labels Child as Autistic

Our son just started kindergarten. He seems, for the most, part to be a completely normal 5-year-old. When he is nervous or anxious, he exhibits an unusual laugh. We also worry about his lack of attention and failure to follow directions. He's not very social with others either. Another problem is that he does not have an "I can do it" attitude. His speech is delayed in using sentences. We have been working on this, and it's improving. Recently he had tubes put in both ears, which could be part of the problem.
The school psychologist said that she believes our son is autistic. After testing, a neurologist and our pediatrician disagreed, and the school has accepted this. We just keep looking for advice on what we can do to make a difference for him. -- Need Something Positive
Answer: Who asked the school psychologist to look at your son? If the teacher requested it because of his classroom behavior, then the psychologist and teacher should have written a behavior plan, and this plan should have been discussed with you before being implemented. Your son's delayed speech needs to be evaluated by the school, and he probably should be seen at school on a regular basis by a speech therapist.
There are red flags indicating some problems with your son's behavior in the classroom. However, I would not jump on the label bandwagon without more information. You need to request that your son be completely evaluated so that you can work with the school to get him on a good, solid path before he starts first grade.