Trouble with Sitting Quietly and Listening

My son is in kindergarten and is having a difficult time being quiet and listening. The teacher insists on doing positive reinforcements that end up being negative and/or humiliating for him. It is also making him a nervous wreck because we are monitoring his behavior every day! Do you have any suggestions on what we as parents and the teacher could do? - Upset
Answer: You definitely need to share how your son is feeling about the so-called positive reinforcements with the teacher. A new plan is needed. No child should be humiliated in front of his classmates. This is starting school off on the wrong foot for your son.
Is your son too young to monitor his own behavior in some way? This might work better than monitoring it after the school day is over. For example, the teacher could tape a piece of paper to his desk. Your son could make a mark on it whenever the teacher signals that his behavior is out of line.
One thing that is very important is for your son to have a clear understanding of what proper classroom behavior is. Both you and the teacher should describe this to him. He also should be asked to describe how he should behave in the classroom.
At home, you can work on your son's classroom behavior by expecting him to be quiet and listen in situations from paying attention to other family members when they speak to listening to stories that are read to him. Good behavior in these areas at home will carry over to school.